There is a lot for us to deal with in this life, isn't there? Almost too much sometimes.
You have your health, job, finances, family, current circumstances-- there are too many things to list. Beyond all of that, where do you find the time for friends? Sometimes that part is incredibly difficult to fit in.
So many times you have said "Work is crazy", "You know, the holidays", or even "It's been really tough to find time" to a friend. You tell them you are sorry for that. What follows that statement is your expectation that this is okay. They will tell you they understand. You have postponed, rescheduled and even cancelled with them time and time again, then all of a sudden a year goes by. Unfortunately, sometimes multiple years slip away from us. That is how the friendship begins to die on the vine but where did that start?
The reason you had to justify that time lapse is so convenient. The 'why' behind your failure to be a proper friend felt right at the time. Well, I am here to tell you that if that were the case then you fucking suck as a friend and they deserve better.
Let that settle in. You assume your friends will always be there. You have been through 'that' break up with them by your side. You have experienced that defining moment in your life with them. You have also experienced that God-awful loss with them to support you. Your friends were there, weren't they? If they were not, I guarantee that you hold a grudge towards those that were not present. There is such a hypocrisy in that mindset that you should work to correct, immediately.
I ask you, if you hold your friends accountable to making you a priority when you need them, were you accountable for when they didn't necessary need you that night? If you do not make them a priority when getting together wasn't of a life-changing circumstance, how can you hold them accountable to when it was?
Regardless of what end of this spectrum you think you are on, I challenge you to fix it. We have far too many social media devices for you to express that you are thinking of someone, at least on the digital level. Take a step forward and meet up with that person on a social level, if you can. At least make a phone call if you cannot. I implore you, find a way.
This is not about letting your friends in life mean something when it all matters the most to you. This is about letting all your friends know they mean something to you when life doesn't always matter.
