Valentine's Day is such polarizing holiday for us. The human race has the greatest capacity to show the emotion of love yet sometimes we seem utterly incapable of doing so.
The truth is, many of us get comfortable in our relationships and become complacent. We realize that Valentine's Day is one of the few times that our significant other expects that extra effort to be made. We make that effort and satisfy or we come up short and we disappoint.
What breeds that complacency? What failed to motivate us when we come up short? The answer is that it is a choice to do so or not. I have said and believed for the longest time that we cannot control the way we feel. I am beginning to renegotiate that. To clarify, I do believe that we develop a natural fondness or dislike to other people, that part is not a choice. However, with that natural fondness we choose whether we work to develop that relationship or dismiss it. When the natural dislike occurs with someone, do you stay naive and deny that person? Can you actually dive past that, understand the person and find that you might appreciate that difference? All of that is a choice.
Beautifully, there are people out there that will inspire us in a way that will make us go that extra mile because we simply want to. A few of us have found that person and will awaken next to them in morning. For those of you this applies to, never wait until the 14th day of February to remind that person that they fill this role in your life.
Many of us have not yet allowed ourselves to find that person because we do not take the right steps to ready ourselves for them. We were reminded all day yesterday in the streets, at restaurants, in social media news feeds and television shows that we do not have that person in our lives yet. For those of you this applies to, never wait until the 14th day of February to be reminded that you have yet to clear your head and settle your own heart to seize the moment that person walks into your life.
Some of us have already met that person yet we have allowed a reconcilable difference to come between the two of you because you place a false priority on something that does not matter in the first place. Never allow a grudge, your own perception or what other people think stand between the two of you. For those of us that this applies to, never wait until the 14th day of February to be reminded that you have yet to roll your sleeves up and make things right with that person.
Do not wait for a specific date to hit the calendar and start today, when no one expects it.
Whatever stage or whichever of these scenarios best fits you, it is important to remember your heart's capacity to show love and then go out and do it. It is the action of doing so that separates us as a race. We have the choice to set aside fear and follow our own hearts. The results can be either beautiful or devastating but it is the choice to do so that shapes how we relate with one another. Exercising this choice is what makes our 'being', human and what anchors our humanity to its one true purpose.
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